Your fiancé is probably feeling a bit insecure about things, like her body, as well as your relationship. When a woman pushes a watermelon sized person through her va-jay-jay, it changes her. It’s usually temporary though – but it can take anywhere from a few months, up to a year and a half for her hormones to get right again.

Is no sex really the reason why you’re fighting all the time? Having a baby can be incredibly stressful on a relationship. Finding yourselves again will take some time, and that includes making time for each other that doesn’t involve watermelon sized people.

Being there for her and reassuring her of your feelings are the best things that you can do for her. If you truly “love her to death” try to be patient and wait for her to get through what she’s going through. You also need to keep the lines of communication open with her. Have you told her that your confidence is down? Maybe she doesn’t realize how things have affected you.

Is one night of drinks with someone you’re obviously attracted to worth losing your new family over? Not to mention you work with this girl, and if something does happen, you have to see her every day, which is a whole other letter…

And above all, remember: